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Friday, April 23, 2010

Aloha!


Welcome to this week’s edition of Aloha Friday.

In Hawaii, Aloha Friday is the day that they take it easy and look forward to the weekend. So I thought that on Fridays I would take it easy on posting, too. Therefore, I’ll ask a simple question for you to answer. Nothing that requires a lengthy response.

If you’d like to participate, just post your own question on your blog. Don’t forget to visit the other participants! It’s a great way to make new bloggy friends!


THIS WEEK'S QUESTION:

As an adult when you have a situation with a *friend* who always seems to have negative undertones towards you, do you, ignore, confront or kill with kindness?



26 comments:

Cynthia Krajcarski said...

I ignore and cut that person out of my life. I have no time for games anymore!!!

I am Harriet said...

Move on- that is too much wasted energy/baggage/negative Karma.


Have a great Friday!
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Kristina P. said...

I broke up with a toxic friend, of 8 years, about 18 months ago. I confronted with kidness, several times, until it just got to the point where I couldn't do it anymore. I was working harder at my relationship with her, than my marriage.

blueviolet said...

Those are the kinds of friends that I slowly ease out of the friendship with!

Rach said...

my best friend can be a bit like that, but the reason is she's dealing with her own issues, so i either ignore the comments, or of she's being especially harsh, point it out to her.

The Social Frog said...

Those kinds of people are the ones to walk away from, life is to short to have such negativity!
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Becca said...

I try to ignore it for a while, and then I confront it when I can't take it anymore.

Lori said...

Kill with kindness and when that doesn't work - confront! I'm not good at ignoring things. YOu can always confront with love though.

Carrie said...

depends on the friend...good friend, great friend, family... I first ignore, until I HAVE to confront, if that doesn't work I try to avoid them!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

The right answer is pray for them and kill them with kindness. What do I really do? I don't spend time with them.

Steph said...

Ignore and eventually move on. Sometimes it's mutual because the person finds I don't give them what they want (a reaction) and they move on too. But of course it's all my fault in their eyes! I guess I could confront, but unless people are willing to hear me, it's pointless and I have no energy to deal with this type of self-absorbed immature crap anymore!

Baba said...

I'll spend a few moment alone with them to confront and get it done with to find an explanation. Then I'll move on. No need to get that upset over someone who doesn't like me, there are plenty who do. I'd rather spend time with those who do like me.

Mighty M said...

I would probably ignore while they were around and stew about it later.....but I would definitely see much much less of them!

Cathi said...

I'd get a new friend.
Life is exhausting without surrounding myself with negativity when it's not necessary. Some people thrive on conflict however I avoid it even at the cost of a friend.

Whimsical Creations said...

I would ignore and spend less time with them.

Thom said...

I cut and run. I don't have use for people like that :) Have a great weekend :)

Kristen Andrews said...

I don't have room in my life for negative people so I hate to say it but the friendship just has to go

Nancy said...

It really depends on whether this is an in your real life person, or an online person. If they are online and bugging you I would say cut them out of your life. You dont have time for constant negativity. If they are a real life person, do you need them for something? Are they important to someone you love? If so just tolerate them, you dont have to love them or even like them, and limit your contact with them to an absolute minimum.

Nancy said...

ps. be prepared to miss them like a crazy weirdo if you do cut them out of your life. I cut someone out of my life about 4 years ago and they were SERIOUSLY toxic, and yet I still miss them for some dumb reason. I know I am better off without them though so I deal with it.

Tropical Mum said...

If I had a friend who was negative towards me, then I would spend less time with her.

Extricating yourself from a friendship can be so difficult. Especially if you live in a smaller town and run in the same circles.

Deal Daddy said...

I usually ignore it, but if it is really bad then i slowly but nicely cut them out.

Happy Aloha Friday!

JamericanSpice said...

Yes those you slowly ease out of that friendship and move on. Or if you are the type to just say it whether it hurts or not, then just tell that person as you sees it and be off to Siberia.

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Sherry C said...

I'm too upbeat and never understand negative undertones. Only people I deal with who are like that are family. With that type I wsually kill with Kindness and confront too.

Sherry C said...

I'm too upbeat and never understand negative undertones. Only people I deal with who are like that are family. With that type I wsually kill with Kindness and confront too.

Sue said...

I'm the ignore type - but I mean ignore to the point of not talking to anymore.