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Thursday, April 9, 2009

Opposites Attract

This week I am taking part in Mama Kat's writing challenge. I chose this prompt:

Describe a moment when you realized you and your spouse were SO different.

I am not sure if there was a precise moment that I realized how different my husband and I really are. I think I am learning it more and more every day.

When you are first dating you are always on your best behavior, and I feel that is true for us. Even right up until the point when we were married. I don't really think I knew how very different we were.

I am a empathetic person. I trust and love people without condition. I would go out of my way to help a person out. He, on the other hand, couldn't really give a crap about other people. His sense of humour is very opposite of what mine is. He is always making fun of me, calling me a loser magnet. He thinks I invest too much time and effort into other people. I, though feel like I have accomplished something if I can make a difference in some one's life.

Now, don't think I am bashing him in any way. While we are very different personalities, he is an awesome husband to me. He has stood by me through some really tough times, things that would break up other couples. He never complains about my never-ending health issues. He loves our children and would not tolerate any one hurting those kids.

It may be true that I maybe didn't acknowledge out differences at the beginning of our relationship. But now I embrace those differences and think we can balance each other out.

17 comments:

Ali said...

I am glad you two have been able to make your differences work. I am always finding out something new about my hubby, and we have been together for 9 years, but only married for 2....you find out a lot AFTER you get married lol!

Jen said...

What a good guy - you're right about balancing each other out. I tend to be super panicked when it comes to certain issues while he remains calm and let's take it one day at a time kind of attitude. We are each other's yin and yang.

blueviolet said...

My husband is a great balance to my personality too. I tend to get stressed out and worried and he calms me back down. He's the voice of reason for me too. I have no common sense and he's full of it.

And how come I never show up in your who is showing their love thing...I don't get it.

Hit 40 said...

I think I always knew we were different. He likes how wacky I am. And, I like that he still loves me anyway :-) Don't get me wrong... I have a story that I could tell you of something awful he did to me that would bring a tear to your eye. I am still working on forgiving him. Maybe, I will post it sometime. But, I just kind of want to put up happy thought for everyone. The daily news is bad enough.

Sue said...

Oh Pam... I cracked up at the comment, "He, on the other hand, couldn't really give a crap about other people." Too funny! Sometimes I feel that my hubby is more like you & I'm more like your hubby, although I do "give a crap" most of the time ;-)

My hubby & I are very similar. Our temperaments are similar only a different mix, but sometimes that different mix will bring up differences as in I'm a dreamer and risk-taker and hubby is overly cautious and not overly risky.

I'm happy to read what a tremendous support your Sweetie is for you in life. I'm enjoying getting to learn more about you over the days/weeks :-)

Hugs xo

Mighty M said...

It has been fun reading some of these! How great that your differences are working for you - you balance quite nicely!

Janet said...

My hubby and I are DEFINITELY opposite. He is an absolute procrastinator and I like to be organised. If all was left up to him, NOTHING would get done! He thinks if you ignore something it will go away, I tackle it head on and get it solved! LOL! Drives me nuts sometimes but I love him just the same!

♥georgie♥ said...

Pam I LOVE the embracing the differences and balancing each other out...I think that can be true of many relationships

Randi Troxell said...

great post... i love it! doug and i are waaaay totally different too. but just like ya'll i tend to think we balance one another out wonderfully... i think we go together great and plus not many other women would put up with some of the crazy things he does, lol!!

Alicia said...

This is a good one to write about!!

I was lol'ing about the "loser magnet."

My husband and I are TOTAL opposite too, so I know exactly what you're talking about here! LOL!!

Kristina P. said...

My husband and I balance each other out. He's very introverted, but very funny, which a lot of people don't see because he is so introverted.

And I'm, well, you read my blog.

Nancy said...

I have always thought my hubby and I were complete opposites!! However, as we get older I'm realizing we are more alike than first thought. Its more shocking to him though, than to me.

Kristie said...

My husband and I are actually quite similar, so it's interesting to read how you and your husband are different. I will admit that we both found out more about each other when we got married, but those things were minor (like he likes to dry the dishes with the towel and I think it's a waste of time-LOL!) It's great that you were able to work through your differences and find a balance :-)

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

What a great balance of the two of you! You two are lucky you found each other!

Sneaky Momma said...

Sounds like you guys combine to make the perfect couple. :)

Megan said...

Our hubby's sound a bit a like. lol

Isn't it funny the things we ignore and then when we're married we're like "what the heck? how come I never knew this?" LOL

Yaya said...

Haha! That's a great prompt! I realized my hubby and I were different when he left the cap off the toothpaste!