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Friday, March 13, 2009

Aloha Friday


Welcome to this week’s edition of Aloha Friday.

In Hawaii, Aloha Friday is the day that they take it easy and look forward to the weekend. So I thought that on Fridays I would take it easy on posting, too. Therefore, I’ll ask a simple question for you to answer. Nothing that requires a lengthy response.

If you’d like to participate, just post your own question on your blog. Don’t forget to visit the other participants! It’s a great way to make new bloggy friends!


Today's question:

At what age did you decide (or will decide) is the cutoff for your child to be inviting friends for a birthday party?

40 comments:

Ter said...

I don't think there should be a cut off age, but perhaps the number of invites. Depending on the kind of party that you plan for them. It should be their bests friends, and you know, they should learn from a young age that a simple party is just as special, and heck, even MORE special than a big elaborate party.

And a birthday is to celebrate their life, the day they were born, and the miracles they are, so I don't think there should be any reason to stop having a birthday celebration, just the nature of how the celebration takes place.

Sorry for rambling. lol. In my case when I turned 13 I felt like I was too old to plan my own parties but I secretly wanted someone to throw me a surprise party but it never happened.

sues2u2 said...

That's too funny since we've been talking about this recently. My son is turning 12 & he seems to be happy w/ just having a pool party & inviting friends over. Works for me!

NateAndJakesMom said...

I think 18... My son turned 17 this past February and I thought one more year and then he is on his own. :) Not like we had cake and ice cream with little party hats but I think that as for a formal invitation party, 18 is a good cut off age.

Wibeche og Rune said...

I think 18 to.

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Aunt LoLo said...

Hmm...by the time I was 17, I was throwing my own b'day parties. Make a little cake, invite a few girlfriends, watch a Jane Austen flick! Definitely by 18, though!

Emily said...

I think about 10. After that they really become to old for a party until they get older about 18 or maybe 16.

blueviolet said...

When high school is over, the parties are over. If they lose interest before that...that's ok too.

Lori said...

I say it depends on the child. The older they get the less elaborate the party needs to be. Maybe limit the number and do something like rent a movie or something like that instead of a formal party

TheAngelForever said...

My oldest is only in kindergarten. Thanks to a summer birthday we have never actually had a party for friends yet. This year may be the first. I agree with others and think it really depends on your child. I know that I had pool parties (in the winter) until I was 12 years old or so. Then my parents allowed me to have friends over for pizza and to do a mystery murder game where we dressed up on my 16th birthday.

janetfaye said...

I think my children were around the age of 16.

Jennifer said...

My son only 1 1/2

Mighty M said...

I haven't decided yet! ;-) Happy Friday!!

Jaime said...

my son's only 14 months so we haven't encountered this problem yet...but i'm interested in everyone else's answers.

Rob said...

I do not think that I will ever cut off sharing birthday with friends. I think that a birthday is the only day just for you. It is a day to celebrate life and all that it has to offer. Who better to share and celebrate your life with then you family and friends. I still have my friends over for cake on my birthday!

Becca

Me said...

Good question..I haven't given it any real thought, because my boys are so young. My mother cut my friend parties off after my 12th birthday. Which seemed to work. I don't remember having any heartache over that.

Cindy said...

Our oldest will soon be 10 and we have not really had a party with friends in a couple years. He usually invites a couple good friends over and we have a party with the family and do something fun for him and his friends. I do always ask him if he wants a party and he says no. I would like this year to maybe do some kind of surprise party for him. We shall see! ;)

Laurie in Ca. said...

Hey Girl,

Just dropping by this morning to let you know I am thinking about you and love you too. Have a great weekend.

Love and Hugs, Laurie

Sarah said...

I never thought about this - my oldest is 6. I guess when the go off to college or don't want them any longer. I love to throw parties...so the longer the better.

Brea's Mommy said...

I don't think there should be a cut-off age. I will base it on Brea's interest.

3 Bay B Chicks said...

Hmm...I might be in the minority here, but I am going to go out on a limb and say it is my birthday next week and I still have detailed discussions with my Mom about the party we will be having.

I will also admit that I am not turning 18 this year.

-Francesca

Randi Troxell said...

i have no kids but i when i have kids that as long as they WANT a party at home they can invite friends over... maybe as everyone gets older i may ask that not as many gets invited is all! happy friday!

jen@odbt said...

My son turned 8 this year and we opted for a little family getaway instead of the usual big party with lots of friends. I wished I'd saved the parties for when they were older and can remember them.

Jenn(ifer) said...

Hmm, well I actually am backwards because up until they were in 1st Grade, I didn't really allow them to invite friends from school. It was basically family & close family friends. I just don't have the money for HUGE parties being that I have 3 boys. (2 of which are having bdays soon. Y ICKS)

Fruitful Vine2 said...

Our boys are 5 and 6 yrs old and we've not done alot of parties for birthdays mostly family and close friends whose kids were our boys friends as well. I guess I don't have an answer to that question.

Kristina P. said...

I agree with the other posters about not having a cutoff age.

Toni said...

I don't really think there is a cutoff age. However when they turn a certain age I won't be the one paying for it LOL

newlyweds said...

I don't think there is a cut off, if they are 30 and I am giving them a b-day party, I will still let them invite friends!

tollesons4him said...

hmmmmm, I dont' think that there really is a cut off date I still love having birthday parties and I am 33.
Have a great weekend!

Bee and Rose said...

I'll probably always let my kids invite friends over! We love a party at our house!

Jenni Jiggety said...

Oh, I don't know! I guess as long as the party they want is reasonable...I won't need a cut-off?

Drama queens mum said...

I'm so glad that it's Friday. I haven't really thought about that yet. My daughter is only 19 & 1/2 months old. But her 1st b-day party we invited just over 40 & this year we wanted to keep it at 20, but I already made out the list (it's not till July) & we're inviting 27 people. I think we will keep it smaller each year.

Diane said...

NEVER! everyone should have the most fab birthday. and if they want a party then i guess i'll be throwing birthday parties until i'm dead! (my mom still has a party for herself at chuck e cheese every year. in fact, its this sunday.)

Nancy said...

no cutoff....some birthdays are small though, every couple of years we have something bigger...bowling party or pool party or something like that...and on the off years just a couple of friends are invited for a sleepover. We rarely have done "invite the whole class" because one time we did that and EVERYONE CAME...all 26 kids...and it was raining outside...and my house is 1450 square feet!! Ha ha

sandy said...

I let them decide! If they don't want to do it anymore then that's their choice:0)

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

Oh I'm not the one to ask this question. When my daughter turned 21 we had a party at Disneyland with about a dozen of her closet friends. WE ALL HAD A BLAST!

Heart of Rachel said...

I don't mind having my son's friends over especially during special occasions. I don't think I'll be imposing any cut off.

diana said...

i think both of my kids stopped having the 'big' birthday parties when they entered middle school. from there, they just invited a few friends to do something special like go to the mall or to a movie. i think by the time they entered high school, they were completely done with having friends join them in the celebrating.

OLLIE MCKAY'S ~ A Chic Boutique said...

LOL ~ I swear - this week's Aloha Friday questions are mostly for the younger girlie girls and I I'm feeling really old here - oh well!! The big b-day parties stopped around 6th grade - starting jr. high?? Since my babies are now 29 & 30, I'm having a hard time remembering that far back, ya know??!!!

Laura said...

I am not really sure. My girls don't even have parties yet that include friends. I guess I will have to wait and see.

H.K. said...

We're nowhere near this stage yet with our kids. But, growing up, my parents let my sister and I have a birthday party every other year with only a few friends over for a sleepover. That way they only had to deal with one birthday party a year. We did something special for our 16th birthdays, but that was it once we got older.